9/23/2005
I'm too open
I'm too open, and too readable. I think being open is good to a point, but it gets tiring after a while. I also freak people out, I think. I don't want to close completely off, but I need to find a happier medium. If the next time you see me, I'm just.....less....of something... Yeah. Just be patient while I figure this all out. If it bothers you, please mention it. I don't want to close people off, but yeah. This made sense to me, whether or not it did to anyone that might read it.
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Is this one of those things where you say something and later hate the fact that you did? And it's not a big thing, but you feel like the cummulation of them all adds up to be too much?
I only ask because I feel that way sometimes, too. Tough thing, to figure out how much is too much and what is the border between that and standoffishness. in the meantime, I'm sure I'm not the only one who loves you anyway. ;)
Thanks. You are wonderful. I really have missed you. I've been insanely busy. The reason I'm so "around" today is that I'm sick. My body is making me take care of it.
I'm too open with guys. I'm very friendly and have a very small personal space bubble, so I think I occasionally invade others' bubbles without meaning to. Then they feel all "violated," and then I feel dumb for making someone uncomfortable. It's probably just me feeling like that. My mom says that I'm really good at projecting what I think other people are feeling onto them and then making a decision based off of that. Bad news. I need to stop doing that.
Sometimes I have to go completely opposite of what I want I currently am so that I can find a happy medium. So I might have to practice being stand-offish (hard!) so that I know what it feels like to be super-open, I know what it feels like to be stand-offish, so I can choose the middle. Hmmm....
Ohh, I get it. :) Good idea!
PS, I hope you feel better soon!
That approach works really well for me too. I find that usually, if I try to be more balanced at something that bothers me, I'll move about a millimeter toward the center and then wonder why nothing changed. If I try to go *way* too far to the other side, I might actually make it a significant fraction of the way toward balance.
I've also had similar experiences with openness. I used to be really closed, then I tried to correct by being really open. That doesn't work either, and you just end up hiding your real self deeper. So now I try to be mean and closed whenever I need to, and it's helping me be more sensitive when it actually makes sense to.
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